for better or worse

"oscar wilde, who has never been wrong, famously said, “the first duty in life is to assume a pose.” the point is to be conscious of the artifice you’re building." - source

as we grow, it is only normal that we go through changes, most prominently in our personalities and identities. we change to fit in, to be special, to get girls. whatever, it doesn't matter. the important thing is being self-aware and know what is going on with yourself.

'assume a pose.' we all do that, the only difference is in the severity in which we change, and if these changes are beneficial. sometimes the changes that we decide to undergo can become too drastic in a bad way, and this will be detrimental to both ourselves and the people around us.

you just have to be smart and notice the changes going on, and the effects of these changes. know why you are changing, and know when to stop if the changes prove to be absolute shit.

what you should not do is be ignorant. don't pretend to be too cool to notice if your new pose is causing problems. don't pretend to be too cool to try to change, ironically.

so change all you want, but please do so with your eyes wide open. always be aware of the motivations behind your actions.