links on a chain

recently i met up with some of my platoon mates from BMT, which was during the period of july to september 2008. since then, this is probably only the third time we've met up, and each time with a different group of people.

so as expected, we were sharing (or reminding each other of) stories during BMT. some stories i never heard of or can't remember at all, and others i recall vividly, but even the stories i remembered, the storyteller would interpret the incidents in a way totally different from mine.

i thought it was interesting that although we experienced our BMT together as a platoon, we each brought back vastly different versions of our time there. perhaps this is to be expected for such a big group of 40 people, but if we narrow it down to the smallest unit of measure, let's say a couple in a relationship, would it be any different?

for a couple who are in love with each other, wouldn't it be kinda silly when this 'love' they share is in fact a very different thing to each of them?

would it be correct then to say that what they love is not their partner, but rather just who they picture this person to be?

are we then merely in love with ourselves?